If you have always loved your body and every part of it then WOW, I’m in awe! I think I can speak for most people and say that almost everyone at some stage in their life dislikes something on their body. And yes, this is normal.
I think this is something that is particularly hard for the teens of our generation. Social media causes pressures that I would have never known growing up. All we had was things like MSN, whereas the teenagers of today have the pressure of getting likes and followers and in general there is much more of negativity and body shaming. This causes untold pressure and unhappiness. I believe every woman and girl should love their bodies and deserves to be comfortable in their own skin.
This is something I have always worked on and it is much easier for me today than it was a couple of years ago. I’m so happy to share with you my favourite tips on body confidence and how you can learn to love yourself. Follow the tips properly and your self esteem will soar;)
Understand no one’s perfect
This is the first and foremost point you should think about when you feel jealousy creeping up on you. NO ONE is perfect. Everyone has something they don’t like or something that is ‘weird’ on their body. And even those who you would categorise as perfect, they also usually have their imperfections. It’s all relative to what you’re used to! Someone who’s happy being a size 6 and puts on weight unintentionally will have the same issues as someone who’s happy being a 10 and becomes a 12. Just remember everything is relative and no-one is perfect.
Learn to be positive about your body
Look in the mirror each night and find 10 positive points about your body. Then say them aloud to yourself. I guarantee you it will become easier. Instead of comparing yourself to others, teach yourself how to sift through the negative thoughts so that you’re left only with the positive ones. Tell yourself every evening ‘I’m beautiful, I look amazing, I’m so pretty,’ and you know what- eventually you will think it! I recently read an article on ABC.net how there is scientific evidence that shows how important positive thinking is.
Surround yourself with positive people
People don’t always realise what a bad and strong influence negative people can have on you. Being around negative people always makes you more negative. A simple solution is to surround yourself with positive people and you’ll notice much less negativity in your life. This will make you happier and less critical in general.
Don’t obsess over diets and exercise
If you are overweight and you’re unhealthy then, yes, you do need to go on a diet. However, don’t let it take control over your life. Being overly obsessed with dieting can lead to eating disorders and a lot of unhappiness. Set restrictions on how many hours in the week you can exercise and keep to it:)
Let go of the stereo type body image
Of all the tips on body confidence this is probably the most important one. The images that you see of models and celebs are not how any normal healthy girls or women should look. I know how easy those images worm their way into our heads, convincing us that that is how we have to look in order to be pretty. WRONG. There are plenty of people of all weights who are truly beautiful. Find yourself a role model with real values who can talk things through with you. Also remember there are many different types of beautiful and not everyone likes the same things. If your way isn’t the stereo model type of beautiful then learn to embrace your way and to stand up for how you feel.
Accept your body type
Remember everyone is born with a different body and a different metabolism. Learn to accept yours because that is the only way you’ll achieve happiness in life. Most of the time we see ourselves in a more critical light than others do. Next time you’re feeling low try to remember that you’re probably the only one who views yourself like that. For me my biggest complex was always my legs- they’re fat! I think they’re fatter in proportion to the rest of my body, and for a looong time it really bothered me. But you know what, I worked on myself that this is how it is and that I’m the only one who’s analysing my legs. I also told myself that if I want to enjoy life I should concentrate on the things I do like about myself. Thankfully, I barely notice my legs anymore;)
Understand what’s really important
Don’t forget what’s really important in life. Whilst being beautiful on the outside is obviously important (this is a beauty blog!), being beautiful on the inside is so much more important. Being a kind and giving person will take you much further in life, and you will be happy and fulfilled from it. Remember you are more than your body, it’s who you are inside that counts in life.
That’s it for now, these are my tips on body confidence and how to love your body. I hope these tips will help you as much as they helped me. If you can think of any points that I have missed be sure to let me know in the comments below. And if these tips have helped you in any way I would love to hear from you:)